How do I know whether psychotherapy, counselling or life coaching is right for me?
At our initial appointment I will take a client history and discuss your reasons for considering counselling, psychotherapy, or life coaching. This is an opportunity for you to make sure that you are comfortable with the process and for us to make sure that the process will be helpful for you.
What are the differences between psychotherapy, counselling and life coaching?
Although there are overlaps between all three processes, a useful distinction can be whether you choose short-term, long-term or very specific work/health/relationship goals.
Psychotherapy tends to be longer term work with the aim a deeper understanding and awareness of self through self-examination, generally to improve relationship with self and, in turn, others.
Counselling tends to be a short-term exploration of issues happening in a person's life at that moment in time. These could include relationship difficulties such as divorce, dealing with anxiety symptoms, or bereavement.
Life coaching is the practice of supporting a person through the process of achieving specific goals, be they at work, at home, or in a specific life situation.
Are you regulated?
I am fully insured and adhere both to the UK Council for Psychotherapy's ("UKCP") and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy ("BACP") Ethical Frameworks for good practice in counselling and psychotherapy. I'm fully accredited by UKCP, am a Member of BACP and am on the BACP Register. In my life coaching work, I comply with the standards developed by the International Coaching Community.
How long will psychotherapy, counselling, or life coaching last?
This varies depending on your goals and needs. I have wide experience of both short and long-term work and we can discuss this at your initial appointment.
When are you available?
I have day and evening appointments available on weekdays. Subject to availability, a regular time and date can be agreed at the initial appointment.
What does it cost?
My fee per session is £70 in both Cobham (near to Esher, Oxshott, Fetcham, Bookham, Hersham, Weybridge and Walton-on-Thames) and at CCPE (Paddington, Little Venice). Any referrals through Vitalis Coaching will be charged at the fees shown on the Vitalis Coaching site fees page.
How can payment be made?
I accept payment either in person at each session (cash or cheque), or via direct bank transfer on the day of a session.
What is EMDR?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), is an established technique that enables the brain to reprocess stored memories, and which has helped over 2 million people relieve many types of psychological distress.
The brain is an extraordinary information processing system which adapts naturally and easily to change. Scientific research has shown how the brain processes information to facilitate learning and adaption. Information is stored in memory networks that contain related thoughts, images, audio and olfactory memories and emotions and body sensations. These memory networks will be organised around early life events.
If trauma occurs and is not fully processed– either ‘big T’ trauma (one off events) or ‘little T’ trauma (unmet needs during key stages of development), they are stored in the memory networks. This inhibits the brain’s adaptive functioning and gives rise to dysfunctional reactions. The result is negative beliefs, which have a destructive impact on self esteem, self confidence and behaviour.
EMDR enables new associations between memory networks to be forged. It does this by accessing and processing difficult memories using bilateral stimulation of the brain. The result is that disturbing images become less vivid and the brain is able to make an adaptive resolution. It relieves emotional and somatic distress, enables new understanding and cognitive insight, and makes it possible to respond to previously overwhelming or stressful situations.
EMDR is a standardised set of procedures and clinical protocols. The client work begins with a thorough discussion and understanding of the nature of the problems being experienced, I will screen for dissociative disorders (using the Dissociative Experiences Scale (DES)). We will together identify some of the life experiences (trigger points) that may be affecting the current problems. After explaining EMDR and gaining your consent, the EMDR sessions will begin.
EMDR integrates element from many different psychological theories and psychotherapies, including cognitive-behavioural, body based, psychodynamic, and bio-informational processing.