Counselling, Psychotherapy, Life Coach and Author in Cobham (near Oxshott, Byfleet, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Kingston, Surbiton, Thames Ditton, Leatherhead, Ripley, Weybridge, Esher, Woking, Bookham, Fetcham, Hersham and Walton-on-Thames)
Welcome to my website. I am an experienced BACP registered, UKCP accredited counsellor and psychotherapist practising individual (not couples) counselling and psychotherapy and life coaching full-time in both London and Surrey. I work in Cobham (near to Oxshott, Esher, Leatherhead, Weybridge, Ripley, Bookham, Fetcham, Hersham and Walton-on-Thames, Byfleet, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Kingston, Surbiton, Thames Ditton and Woking.)
I've also written a self-help book which is currently available here on Amazon and in the Cobham Book Shop that you may find helpful. Excerpts from reviews of the book on Amazon.co.uk include: “A totally wonderful and inspiring book.” “I cannot recommend it more highly. I think this book will change the way you see and go about your life”, “...it's not often reading a non-fiction book that I find it hard to put the book down... Recommend this book to anyone who wants their mind to be a nicer place to be!”, “Fantastic read… extremely helpful… Highly recommend” and “Grounded and heartfelt. Totally non-patronising, sensible and practical. This is a book full of compassion and wisdom in a format that's easy to read and to apply...he will help to change the way you relate to yourself and others.” Some more book reviews are contained in the box headed ‘My Book’ on this page for your information. I’ve also written articles related to well-being for various media outlets that you can read here.
I am currently running a waiting list for new clients and it may be that we're not able to meet within days of your initial message. If you're therefore looking to see someone urgently, you might want to continue looking. If you are able to wait a little, please do contact me and I shall take some details and then get in touch with you as soon as a time becomes available. I'm also happy to have a chat on the phone in the meantime if you think that would be helpful.
On the page headed "Will this help?" are some of the important ways that I believe psychotherapy, counselling and coaching can help you. On the third page of this website I include testimonials kindly provided by some of my clients and excerpts from these are as follows:
"He creates a very safe space in which you can gradually rediscover the complexities of being yourself. You might have been prepared to come to terms with the tough stuff; but John-Paul creates a space in which you can face reality, including the joy of living …even when you had almost forgotten what it was."
"I found John-Paul to be a truly excellent therapist ... I never thought it would be possible, but I am now medication free and feeling happier, safer and more confident than ever. I would wholeheartedly recommend John-Paul to anyone seeking a therapist, and will always be grateful for his help."
"John-Paul has demonstrated a deep sense of trustworthiness, respect, compassion, empathy, openness, authenticity and warmth. John-Paul has provided a safe haven where I have felt listened to in a non-judgemental way, I have felt truly heard and understood."
"..I can honestly say my life would look very different if I hadn’t had his calming, confidence-instilling, soothing help. He is incredibly gifted at listening to what I had to say and then helping me re-orient it so that I could evaluate whether the way I was thinking and feeling was helpful... This was all done without being lectured at or judged; it... always made me come away feeling enlightened... He has also really helped me to be much kinder to myself and to recognise and celebrate my achievements both within and without. I would recommend him to anyone."
"I have benefited enormously from my time with John-Paul. His approach made me feel very calm and relaxed and that nothing I had to say was embarrassing or shameful. His skills have... improved my confidence and feeling of self-worth no end. I would highly recommend his services and have indeed done so to friends and colleagues; before starting the sessions with John-Paul, I may have been a little reticent to tell them that I'd sought the services of a psychotherapist, let alone recommend one to them - such is the change in my view!"
"I was recommended John-Paul by a friend and am so grateful she pointed me in his direction... I have been able to learn so much about myself and my anxieties. John-Paul has provided me with a sense of self belief that has been lacking for several years, in addition, some great tools to help me manage my everyday life experiences. I can honestly say that I feel happier in myself than I have been for as long as I can remember, I have learned to like myself again and believe in my abilities to achieve my goals. My family have also commented on how much happier “better” I look and appear. I can not recommend John-Paul highly enough, he has helped me turn my life around and start enjoying each day, whatever it may throw at me."
"...expectations were far exceeded. John-Paul helped me examine the past and present in a positive way... I feel in control and centred with greater self awareness than ever before. I would personally recommend John-Paul to anyone seeking a better understanding of themselves and better ways to manage and interpret their lives."
See my profiles on the Counselling Directory and on the UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy), RSCPP, BUPA (their recommended specialist directory) and BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) websites. I am also a member of the Surrey Counselling and Psychotherapy Initiative (SCPI).
Good psychotherapy, counselling or life coaching can each enable you to experience life more in the way you want to. The issues bringing you to this site will be standing in the way of this, but it can change. I don't believe that anyone is predestined to be a certain "type" of person, to behave in, or feel, a particular way, or to live a certain life. Growth and change are always possible. That said, sometimes much of the work can be about us just appreciating and valuing more of who we currently are and what we already have in our life.
There is a real and unique potential for both healing and change held in the trusting relationship between psychotherapist/counsellor/life coach and client. The same issues arise for different reasons in each person. In psychotherapy or counselling, we learn how unique elements are creating your symptoms or causing you to feel unsatisfied, distressed or struggle. We'll look at how this can be different in your day to day life in order for you to shape life in the way you want. In life coaching, the aim is much the same, but there is less time spent exploring and linking with the past to understand the present and much more emphasis on setting goals for future achievement. For more detail on the differences between psychotherapy, counselling and working with a life coach, please refer to my Frequently Asked Questions page.
My training combined traditional psychotherapy theory with more contemporary techniques. This enables your individuality to be reflected in our work together. We would work in a style designed to suit you. My "Qualifications" page contains full details of my experience and qualifications. I have a broad range of clients and have worked successfully with issues including the following:
addictions and compulsions,
attachment issues (intimacy, commitment,etc.),
abuse issues (emotional, physical and sexual),
divorce and separation,
effects of working in a high-pressured corporate environment,
grief and loss,
lack of meaning and purpose,
life coaching for personal and professional goals,
relationship difficulties (not couples counselling though),
self-esteem and self-confidence,
sex and sexuality,
stress and stress-management,
who am I?
work related issues,
working in the City
Just to clarify, I don't work with anyone under the age of 16, or couples (which includes bringing a partner in as part of individual therapy), or families. Except in the case of young people, to maintain boundaries, I also only speak to the person who will actually be coming to therapy and not anyone calling on their behalf, for example, partners.
The venues I work from are all comfortable and conducive to positive psychotherapeutic work and work as a life coach. Both are conveniently located for public transport and have parking nearby. My Cobham venue is just off Cobham High Street and is convenient for Oxshott, Esher, Leatherhead, Weybridge, Ripley, Bookham, Fetcham, Hersham, Walton-on-Thames, Byfleet, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Kingston, Surbiton, Thames Ditton and Woking. Postcodes covered by the various venues include KT7, KT8, KT10, KT11, KT12, KT13, KT14, W1 and W2.
I am a psychotherapist, counsellor and life coach working with all of the above issues in Cobham (convenient for Oxshott, Bookham, Fetcham, Leatherhead, Ripley, Esher, Hersham, Weybridge, Walton-on-Thames, Byfleet, Claygate, Epsom, Guildford, Kingston, Surbiton, Thames Ditton and Woking), Surrey.
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